Since this blog presents a male perspective, readers might find its views unbalanced. That's perfectly OK. I'm on much safer ground talking about the responsibilities of men, and leave the woman question to women. (However, just because I don't understand women, that doesn't mean I'm not trying!)
Courtesy of London's Daily Mail, a behavioral psychologist says that no matter how rich, powerful and successful women become, they are most naturally inclined to want to depend upon a strong man for provision and protection. Get this:
When couples meet at speed-dating evenings, typically a man will judge a woman on her looks and youth. His priorities are whether she's healthy, interested in sex and can give him children one day. He doesn't care how much she earns or her social status.
Typically, however, a woman's first question will be: 'What job do you do?' It sounds a friendly overture, but what she really wants to know is his social position and earning capacity. Is he an industrious, hard worker, capable of providing for her and their children?
As if that weren't enough, Dr. Nick Neave adds, "As American statesman Henry Kissinger put it: 'Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.'" The good doctor must be cruising for a bruising. If this research is taken seriously, he could set back sexual politics for decades. Or, if he is correct, the sexual revolution did not change men's and women's core motivations after all.
Consider this: if a woman wants a career, success and professional fulfillment, that still will not satisfy her expectations of a "real man." If a man wants to sow his wild oats with every "Fergielicious" babe he can score, that will not secure his legacy.
There's no school like the old school.
Read the article: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/pages/live/femail/article.html?in_article_id=420513&in_page_id=1879
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It would be interesting to see what data Dr. Neave used to reach his conclusions. Were these observations based on his counseling experience, or was some research done with a reasonably broad-based sample of powerful, successful women? ... in just the UK or US and elsewhere?
I enjoyed reading your post. I think most women are indoctrinated with a dependency mentality. Personally I would not be comfortable depending on someone. I prefer to walk into the marriage with some assets so that if I stay home, I have my own assets. I think that a dependency mentality creates passivity and a lack of pro-activity that is unhealthy. It also discourages personal responsibility. As a woman, the women who are looking for a caretaker are the ones who end up in abusive relationships and with unhealthy partners.
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